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   (Aug 17, 2006 - 11:48 AM)

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   Hello, my name is Aaron Jason Silver. I have recently authored a book entitled, “Why g** Men Do What Do”; “An Inside Look at g** Culture”. Below is a brief summary about what my book is about and what my concerns are about g** culture of today.
   
   I live in the g** resort along the Lake Michigan shoreline called, Saugatuck Michigan; it is considered one of the top ten largest g** resorts in the country. I live on a small horse farm and raise dogs and write about 5 miles outside of the community. Many of the vacationers, whether g** or straight, are from our closest urban centers such as Chicago Illinois or Detroit Michigan. Living in this area for so long has given me a unique opportunity to observe many different aspects of g** culture and to observe the many fads and trends the culture has gone through, which would also include the rural in which I live and the urban. There are often dramatic differences between the two,
   
   I believe we need healthy charismatic leadership such as Martin Luther King kind of persona that will help inspire and motivate the g** community to move in a more positive direction. We still have a long way to go to be and feel completely assimilated within the dominant culture. To me it seems that the g** community is happy just having fun and partying endlessly every weekend at their favorite watering holes. It is wonderful to want to have fun and play if there is some balance in our lives such as getting involved in some way in helping further our goals of complete assimilation and obtaining equal rights for all under the laws of the land, or even involving oneself in helping those in greater need. I personally will not settle for metaphorical crumbs. I want the whole cookie because we deserve it. However, we need more involvement within our culture otherwise we will continue our endless lifestyle of some very serious behavioral and emotional problems within the community and never address that 800lb gorilla in the living room. I personally can’t ignore the gorilla. I have to at least acknowledge it. Why it is there and what can we do about it?
   
   During the research process for this book which had taken me to around 60 countries and numerous discussions with g** men about their school age experiences, I found a common thread. The commonality was that the vast majority of g** men particularly in the U.S was that school was a terrible and humiliating experience for them. I personally believe that these school age hurts for most g** men are still unhealed wounds that I refer to as “ghost wound.” Ghost wounds are unhealed wounds that follow g** men, or any person for that matter around for their lifetimes affecting their adult lives in a variety of negative and self-defeating ways. I believe and have noticed it seems to prevent many from truly fulfilling lives. These wounds tend to cause them to have a need for frequent sexual encounters, often anonymous, that often lead to sexual addiction. Also g** men have a much higher incidence of alcoholism, drug abuse, suicide and an excessive need to party as you would more likely see in much younger men. Very often g** men tend to be catty, gossipy and petty, the types of behaviors you would more likely expect to see in school age girls. They also tend to prefer situations that are superficial and prefer to the extraneous aspects of life. They tend to want to avoid deep or profound discussions dealing with emotional issues. They often avoid these situations as they arise by giggling or making some silly comment to bring the conversation back into a conversational arena that is more comfortable for them. Intimate discussions are not a comfortable area for many g**s. I feel this is a good place to use a saying by Shakespeare that may seem overused by some but in this situation I find it highly appropriate because of its eternal truth, and the saying goes as such; “a life unexamined is a life not worth living”. For many g** men their early years were very painful and perhaps this is the reason why they tend not to be introspective. The examination of ones life can be a painful process but the fruits of the process are well worth all the pain that they may have endured. I need to make it clear that what I have just said is not a blanket statement about all g** men by any means; however, these behaviors are more common amongst g** men than with their straight brothers. None of these issues that I brought up about the pettiness and gossipy behaviors, and the superficial nature of g** culture is not something I just made up. There is not a single g** man that I have ever talked to that hasn’t commented on this phenomenon themselves. However no one has yet put this out there in book form that I know of. I would be remiss that by doing so has caused numerous retaliations against my home and pets.
   
   If you would like a free copy to review please e-mail me a request and I would be delighted to forward your request on to my publisher. They will in turn send you a copy of the book which will take approximately 1 week to be delivered.
   
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   A portion of the proceeds from the book sales will be going towards the (non-profit / foundation we are establishing) "CHANGE YOUR LIFE ADVENTURES" (CYLA) which is explained below.
   
   CHANGE YOUR LIFE ADVENTURES: This endeavor is to provide underprivileged teens with the opportunity to experience the wonders of dramatic cultural differences such as African safaris, India and all of the wonderful places that influenced my life so positively. There will be a psychotherapist on board for added guidance and to assist the teenagers with any self-esteem issues, which may hinder their understanding that "what you can dream can be your reality". Our goal is to inspire and encourage these young minds to further their education through scholarship money, computers or any tools, that may be essential to learning in this modern age.
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   Most sincerely,
   
   Aaron Jason Silver
   
   Aaron Jason Silver
   
   For more information and how to order this book, go to: www.aaronjasonsilver.com
   
   To add comments about my book go to my blog: www.whyg**mendowhattheydo.blogspot.com .
   Hello, my name is Aaron Jason Silver. I have recently authored a book entitled, “Why g** Men Do What Do”; “An Inside Look at g** Culture”. Below is a brief summary about what my book is about and what my concerns are about g** culture of today.